Top Ten Mistakes When Approaching Women
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By Vin DiCarlo
As a veteran pickup coach, I’ve seen it all…
I’ve seen guys who were short, scrawny, and nerdy-looking walk into a club and leave with the best looking girl in the place. I’ve seen good-looking, confident guys freeze up when I told them to approach, and then hide from me the rest of the night!
What I want to talk about today are the common mistakes I see when guys approach women.
Those first thirty seconds of conversation with a woman are crucial, and one mistake can ruin your chances of getting anywhere with her.
Now not every approach is going to be perfect - in fact NO approach will ever be, so give up on trying to be perfect. One thing I always tell guys is that I’m not the most fancy pickup artist, but I do the basics EXTREMELY well.
But what are these basics?
I know how confusing it can be when you read all the material out there - from books, to forum posts, to seminars…
Sometimes I think average guys have it easy because they don’t know how ignorant they are!
Guys who are trying to get better with women often suffer from paralysis of analysis - they have TOO MUCH
information. This can lead to all sorts of problems - the main one being that they don’t take action.
I know how that feels, believe me. I struggled for a long time with too much information. And then I let it all go, and had to start my journey all over again, learning completely on my own. But you know what? I’m glad I did.
And now I feel it’s not only a great way to make a living, it’s my RESPONSIBILITY to share what I’ve learned with guys who are struggling in this arena. So let me give you a rundown of the 10 most common mistakes I see guys making when they first approach a woman - and this isn’t just students - this applies to regular guys I observe when I go out.
1. He gives her a lame compliment
This is how most guys open - they say something typical, generic, and overly-approving, like
“You’re hot” or “you’re so beautiful” or “you’re fucking hot”
Now don’t get me wrong, I like to be direct, and I like giving women compliments.
But I make it specific, and I talk more about myself and what I think, rather than “what she is.”
For example, “that’s some laugh you got there…I heard you from across the bar.”
2. He does her a favor, like buying her a drink
The most common thing guys do is offer to buy a woman a drink.
The only time I’ll do this is if I’m getting a round for my buddies, and there’s a woman I want to meet close by - I’ll get her one too.
This is fun, social, and is not too approval-seeking, since I’m already spending money on my friends.
Guys will usually do some kind of favor for a woman, like giving up their chair, or buying her a drink, taking a picture of her.
I REFUSE to take pictures, unless I’m in them.
You don’t want to be serving and appeasing her, EVER. Especially in the first 30 seconds.
3. He approaches from a bad angle, or speaking too quietly
These two might seem different, but they are really flip-sides of the same coing:
You are afraid of making your presence felt.
What kind of message do you think that sends to a woman?
The WRONG one - primarily that you lack self-esteem and you probably suck in bed.
Walk right up to her and speak loudly - make her feel you!
4. He has bad eye contact
Some guys really struggle with eye contact, but it’s one of the main things women look for. A man who can look her in the eye and not flinch is essentially saying,
“I’m not afraid of you - I’m interested in you. I am offering something wonderful to you, and I fully intend on
giving it to you if you want it.”
5. He’s drunk and sloppy
There’s kind of a double standard here. Women often get really drunk and sloppy when they go out.
But if a drunk guy approaches them, he’s toaster strudel. It just looks bad when a man is out of control of himself - and this is exactly the main purpose alcohol serves - to make you lose self-control.
6. He doesn’t own his space
This is a really subtle sticking but a LOT of guys have it. When you stand or sit, you want to own your space, meaning you don’t want to confine your body to accommodate others. Acquiescing to others physically is a
sure-fire way to show a woman that you are scared, weak, and insecure.
You don’t have to sit with your arms spread out, or stand like a military sergeant.
You should be physically comfortable, and not hold your body in to accommodate other people - especially other guys.
7. He stalls out because he’s trying to say the right thing
This is HUGE - the most common mistake guys make. I harp on this in just about every newsletter, but I can’t say it enough…
Women are screening for one thing - are you trying to say the right thing to GET something from her?
They can tell so easily, because it’s the main thing they are looking for. And guess what - this focus does NOT serve you. Not only does it make you look like you’re trying to get something (sex) from her, it also stops your mind from flowing.
Here’s why.
You can’t ever guess what another person is thinking. So when you try to say the right thing, you’re second-guessing what that person wants to hear.
It’s almost always impossible, and will only stump you.
Stop trying to be smooth and say the right thing!
8. He doesn’t address her friends
A woman’s friends take top priority, at first. Woman usually have lots of very fickle, short-lived friendships.
One second they’ll declare “this is my GIRL! I LOVE her!”
The next day, it’s “oh my god she’s such a bitch, I’m over it.”
But in front of a guy she’s just met, she has to put her friends first. And if you try to talk to her without at
least acknowledging her friends and being friendly to them, you’ll look anti-social, and uncalibrated.
The whole thing will be awkward, and her friends will most likely drag her away.
9. He asks for her number too soon
A lot of times, guys will want to eject from the conversation because they don’t what else to talk about.
So they will just go for the number before it’s really appropriate. I think of a phone number as a reward I GIVE TO HER.
If she impresses me, I’ll decide that I like her enough to give her a call.
But you have to give her time to impress you - at least get her to express herself in some way that you can approve her for.
There’s one more piece here…
Don’t walk off right after she gives you her number - it makes you look like a player.
Talk about something you could do together, or just shoot the shit a little longer, then go back to your friends, or leave the venue.
10. He doesn’t touch her
What do you want with this woman? A sexual relationship!
So move in that direction from the VERY START. I cannot stress this point enough. Most guys who end up in the “Friend Zone” do so because they had FEAR of escalation and “played it safe”
It doesn’t mean that you need to take big risks, in fact, the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder shows you how to escalate in a smooth, safe manner…
…meanwhile making solid progress in your physical escalation.
Source : Grow Your Game
As a veteran pickup coach, I’ve seen it all…
I’ve seen guys who were short, scrawny, and nerdy-looking walk into a club and leave with the best looking girl in the place. I’ve seen good-looking, confident guys freeze up when I told them to approach, and then hide from me the rest of the night!
What I want to talk about today are the common mistakes I see when guys approach women.
Those first thirty seconds of conversation with a woman are crucial, and one mistake can ruin your chances of getting anywhere with her.
Now not every approach is going to be perfect - in fact NO approach will ever be, so give up on trying to be perfect. One thing I always tell guys is that I’m not the most fancy pickup artist, but I do the basics EXTREMELY well.
But what are these basics?
I know how confusing it can be when you read all the material out there - from books, to forum posts, to seminars…
Sometimes I think average guys have it easy because they don’t know how ignorant they are!
Guys who are trying to get better with women often suffer from paralysis of analysis - they have TOO MUCH
information. This can lead to all sorts of problems - the main one being that they don’t take action.
I know how that feels, believe me. I struggled for a long time with too much information. And then I let it all go, and had to start my journey all over again, learning completely on my own. But you know what? I’m glad I did.
And now I feel it’s not only a great way to make a living, it’s my RESPONSIBILITY to share what I’ve learned with guys who are struggling in this arena. So let me give you a rundown of the 10 most common mistakes I see guys making when they first approach a woman - and this isn’t just students - this applies to regular guys I observe when I go out.
1. He gives her a lame compliment
This is how most guys open - they say something typical, generic, and overly-approving, like
“You’re hot” or “you’re so beautiful” or “you’re fucking hot”
Now don’t get me wrong, I like to be direct, and I like giving women compliments.
But I make it specific, and I talk more about myself and what I think, rather than “what she is.”
For example, “that’s some laugh you got there…I heard you from across the bar.”
2. He does her a favor, like buying her a drink
The most common thing guys do is offer to buy a woman a drink.
The only time I’ll do this is if I’m getting a round for my buddies, and there’s a woman I want to meet close by - I’ll get her one too.
This is fun, social, and is not too approval-seeking, since I’m already spending money on my friends.
Guys will usually do some kind of favor for a woman, like giving up their chair, or buying her a drink, taking a picture of her.
I REFUSE to take pictures, unless I’m in them.
You don’t want to be serving and appeasing her, EVER. Especially in the first 30 seconds.
3. He approaches from a bad angle, or speaking too quietly
These two might seem different, but they are really flip-sides of the same coing:
You are afraid of making your presence felt.
What kind of message do you think that sends to a woman?
The WRONG one - primarily that you lack self-esteem and you probably suck in bed.
Walk right up to her and speak loudly - make her feel you!
4. He has bad eye contact
Some guys really struggle with eye contact, but it’s one of the main things women look for. A man who can look her in the eye and not flinch is essentially saying,
“I’m not afraid of you - I’m interested in you. I am offering something wonderful to you, and I fully intend on
giving it to you if you want it.”
5. He’s drunk and sloppy
There’s kind of a double standard here. Women often get really drunk and sloppy when they go out.
But if a drunk guy approaches them, he’s toaster strudel. It just looks bad when a man is out of control of himself - and this is exactly the main purpose alcohol serves - to make you lose self-control.
6. He doesn’t own his space
This is a really subtle sticking but a LOT of guys have it. When you stand or sit, you want to own your space, meaning you don’t want to confine your body to accommodate others. Acquiescing to others physically is a
sure-fire way to show a woman that you are scared, weak, and insecure.
You don’t have to sit with your arms spread out, or stand like a military sergeant.
You should be physically comfortable, and not hold your body in to accommodate other people - especially other guys.
7. He stalls out because he’s trying to say the right thing
This is HUGE - the most common mistake guys make. I harp on this in just about every newsletter, but I can’t say it enough…
Women are screening for one thing - are you trying to say the right thing to GET something from her?
They can tell so easily, because it’s the main thing they are looking for. And guess what - this focus does NOT serve you. Not only does it make you look like you’re trying to get something (sex) from her, it also stops your mind from flowing.
Here’s why.
You can’t ever guess what another person is thinking. So when you try to say the right thing, you’re second-guessing what that person wants to hear.
It’s almost always impossible, and will only stump you.
Stop trying to be smooth and say the right thing!
8. He doesn’t address her friends
A woman’s friends take top priority, at first. Woman usually have lots of very fickle, short-lived friendships.
One second they’ll declare “this is my GIRL! I LOVE her!”
The next day, it’s “oh my god she’s such a bitch, I’m over it.”
But in front of a guy she’s just met, she has to put her friends first. And if you try to talk to her without at
least acknowledging her friends and being friendly to them, you’ll look anti-social, and uncalibrated.
The whole thing will be awkward, and her friends will most likely drag her away.
9. He asks for her number too soon
A lot of times, guys will want to eject from the conversation because they don’t what else to talk about.
So they will just go for the number before it’s really appropriate. I think of a phone number as a reward I GIVE TO HER.
If she impresses me, I’ll decide that I like her enough to give her a call.
But you have to give her time to impress you - at least get her to express herself in some way that you can approve her for.
There’s one more piece here…
Don’t walk off right after she gives you her number - it makes you look like a player.
Talk about something you could do together, or just shoot the shit a little longer, then go back to your friends, or leave the venue.
10. He doesn’t touch her
What do you want with this woman? A sexual relationship!
So move in that direction from the VERY START. I cannot stress this point enough. Most guys who end up in the “Friend Zone” do so because they had FEAR of escalation and “played it safe”
It doesn’t mean that you need to take big risks, in fact, the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder shows you how to escalate in a smooth, safe manner…
…meanwhile making solid progress in your physical escalation.
Source : Grow Your Game
Wednesday, January 28, 2009 | 0 Comments
Dating Tips for Divorced Men
Posted by
Alexis
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What do you do when you just went through a bitter divorce and now you find yourself on the single scene once again??
Where do you start?
How do you meet women again?
Do you know how to properly approach beautiful women? It seems that things have changed so much. How do you begin anew?
In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. It's been a quite a while since they hit the bar scene with the fellas and approached girls and now, what perhaps used to be second nature, feels a bit foreign.
It seems as if the times have changed so much. Some guys feel like they got lucky to meet the girl they married the first time as they were never very good at attracting women to begin with. Oh, what will they do now??
Now, I have to be honest with you. I have never been divorced. Then again, that may be because I have never been married either. My job is to help guys from all walks of life meet women, build attraction, and have a successful dating life. My job is to help men attract women. Whether you plan to get married again or not is none of my business.
If you have been out of the scene for a while, you need to become acclimated into the single scene once again.
Now, I am going to lay out a specific 10 Step program to enable you to effectively join the single scene again and start attracting more women.
STEP 1- Attitude readjustment
It all starts with your ATTITUDE. This is the first step!
You have to make a decision. I can give you all sorts of dating advice but it won't do you any good until you decide that you want to get this part of your life handled.
So you have a choice: You have a choice. You can stand around, snivel, gripe and complain about how times have changed, about how different things are now, OR you can decide NOW to start attracting a wonderful (women) into your life. If you are reading through this article, perhaps you have already made this decision!
Take this timeto celebrate your freedom! Chances are if you were married for 15 or 20 years, you were institutionalized, sort of like the character of "Brooks" from the classic movie "The Shawshank Redemption." If you've seen the movie, you know exactly what I am talking about. "Brooks" from Shawshank wanted to choose staying in a sadistic and brutal prison rather than celebrate a freedom that came with uncertainty.
When you were married, things made sense even if the circumstances were atrocious. Now, things suddenly do not make sense and this is a scary feeling.
This is a temporary state! You must realize that this shall pass. You're not the first man to become divorced, nor are you the last.
In fact 60% of marriages end up in a divorce in some parts of the country so you're in pretty good company.
Adjust your attitude. Start to realize that you have just opened the door to a world of new possibilities. The door of new possibilities has just been opened, and you ought to celebrate your new found freedom.
STEP 2- Burn your old clothes. Time for a makeover
Look, I know it's possible that you were already a sharp dresser. Anything is possible!! We live in a country that lets Geraldo on TV! In my experience, however, most men have no clue how to dress properly and when it comes to married men, forget about it.
In my experience, most married men I meet, have settled into a comfort zone where the sweatshirt over plain pants look has become their calling card. If you are back on the single scene, it'd help if you started to once again take care of your appearance. It's time to a grab a few new outfits, a pair of new shoes, and do some grooming.
I understand how basic this sounds but you may be astounded as to how many guys I come across who fail their basic grooming. Just make sure your hair (don't care if it's completely shaved or in a pompadour,) your beard/goatee, looks like it's been cared for.
Good Breath is on top of this list. The problem is most people including many of your buddies won't tell you that you have bad breath. They'll just run away. Our first step is to make certain that we are taking care of the basics.
Change the way you dress, start grooming, and look presentable. Look like you know you're in demand!
STEP 3- Start Approaching
Make an effort to approach more women and grow your social circle. You have to start socializing more with women as well as more men. Most married couples hang out with other married couples, talk about babies, fight over bills, and watch reruns of Law & Order.
It's needless to say that regardless of the conversational topics, this particular social circle isn't going to introduce you to as many single women as you'd like to meet. Hence, it'd be very wise to start creating new social circles that include single people, or at the very least, people in relationships who are still in touch with the single world.
You must realize that this takes some effort on your part. You ought to start initiating conversations with more women everywhere you go. The first thought that pops into the head of a lot of men is hitting the bar and club scene. Depending on your age, taste, likes and dislikes, you may not be a bar/club guy. That's certainly understandable.
You can still make an effort to approach women during your daily activities which could range from supermarket and coffee-shops to various classes, clubs, and the gym.
You also may want to give online personals a try. I'd only advise you to utilize the personals as a supplemental means to meet women, not as your only means to meet new women.
STEP 4- Start exercising again
I am being a bit presumptuous here. If you're doing it already, that's fantastic. Most married guys start growing horizontally. Exercise will make you FEEL better physically, emotionally, and mentally. It will also boost your self-confidence which is of the utmost importance! As a bonus, joining a gym will enable you to meet new people, women as well as men. (Not to mention that it will improve your physical appearance.)
This is not a ploy to pick up women. You'll feel better because of it!
STEP 5- Establishing New networks
Look to create a network of single friends who really enjoy going out and meeting women. Nothing would probably encourage you more to actually enjoy going out and meeting women more than surrounding yourself with a few guys who like to have a good time and socialize.
Hanging with introverts who want to sit home and maybe play a card game or two is not going to help you meet more women. If you are going to hang with guys like that, then make sure you balance it with hanging with a few animals who want to hit the outdoor life.
OK, we are half way there. Part 2 of this article covers the next 5 steps that will enable you to attract desirable women. Please continue to the next section.
Wishing you the bestHealth Fitness Articles,
Cameron Teone
About the Author
Cameron Teone has taught dating seminars and workshops all over the world. His focus is on helping men meet and attract suitable women. He is the author of Building Attraction Secrets. You can read more about him at Dating Advice for Men
Where do you start?
How do you meet women again?
Do you know how to properly approach beautiful women? It seems that things have changed so much. How do you begin anew?
In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. It's been a quite a while since they hit the bar scene with the fellas and approached girls and now, what perhaps used to be second nature, feels a bit foreign.
It seems as if the times have changed so much. Some guys feel like they got lucky to meet the girl they married the first time as they were never very good at attracting women to begin with. Oh, what will they do now??
Now, I have to be honest with you. I have never been divorced. Then again, that may be because I have never been married either. My job is to help guys from all walks of life meet women, build attraction, and have a successful dating life. My job is to help men attract women. Whether you plan to get married again or not is none of my business.
If you have been out of the scene for a while, you need to become acclimated into the single scene once again.
Now, I am going to lay out a specific 10 Step program to enable you to effectively join the single scene again and start attracting more women.
STEP 1- Attitude readjustment
It all starts with your ATTITUDE. This is the first step!
You have to make a decision. I can give you all sorts of dating advice but it won't do you any good until you decide that you want to get this part of your life handled.
So you have a choice: You have a choice. You can stand around, snivel, gripe and complain about how times have changed, about how different things are now, OR you can decide NOW to start attracting a wonderful (women) into your life. If you are reading through this article, perhaps you have already made this decision!
Take this timeto celebrate your freedom! Chances are if you were married for 15 or 20 years, you were institutionalized, sort of like the character of "Brooks" from the classic movie "The Shawshank Redemption." If you've seen the movie, you know exactly what I am talking about. "Brooks" from Shawshank wanted to choose staying in a sadistic and brutal prison rather than celebrate a freedom that came with uncertainty.
When you were married, things made sense even if the circumstances were atrocious. Now, things suddenly do not make sense and this is a scary feeling.
This is a temporary state! You must realize that this shall pass. You're not the first man to become divorced, nor are you the last.
In fact 60% of marriages end up in a divorce in some parts of the country so you're in pretty good company.
Adjust your attitude. Start to realize that you have just opened the door to a world of new possibilities. The door of new possibilities has just been opened, and you ought to celebrate your new found freedom.
STEP 2- Burn your old clothes. Time for a makeover
Look, I know it's possible that you were already a sharp dresser. Anything is possible!! We live in a country that lets Geraldo on TV! In my experience, however, most men have no clue how to dress properly and when it comes to married men, forget about it.
In my experience, most married men I meet, have settled into a comfort zone where the sweatshirt over plain pants look has become their calling card. If you are back on the single scene, it'd help if you started to once again take care of your appearance. It's time to a grab a few new outfits, a pair of new shoes, and do some grooming.
I understand how basic this sounds but you may be astounded as to how many guys I come across who fail their basic grooming. Just make sure your hair (don't care if it's completely shaved or in a pompadour,) your beard/goatee, looks like it's been cared for.
Good Breath is on top of this list. The problem is most people including many of your buddies won't tell you that you have bad breath. They'll just run away. Our first step is to make certain that we are taking care of the basics.
Change the way you dress, start grooming, and look presentable. Look like you know you're in demand!
STEP 3- Start Approaching
Make an effort to approach more women and grow your social circle. You have to start socializing more with women as well as more men. Most married couples hang out with other married couples, talk about babies, fight over bills, and watch reruns of Law & Order.
It's needless to say that regardless of the conversational topics, this particular social circle isn't going to introduce you to as many single women as you'd like to meet. Hence, it'd be very wise to start creating new social circles that include single people, or at the very least, people in relationships who are still in touch with the single world.
You must realize that this takes some effort on your part. You ought to start initiating conversations with more women everywhere you go. The first thought that pops into the head of a lot of men is hitting the bar and club scene. Depending on your age, taste, likes and dislikes, you may not be a bar/club guy. That's certainly understandable.
You can still make an effort to approach women during your daily activities which could range from supermarket and coffee-shops to various classes, clubs, and the gym.
You also may want to give online personals a try. I'd only advise you to utilize the personals as a supplemental means to meet women, not as your only means to meet new women.
STEP 4- Start exercising again
I am being a bit presumptuous here. If you're doing it already, that's fantastic. Most married guys start growing horizontally. Exercise will make you FEEL better physically, emotionally, and mentally. It will also boost your self-confidence which is of the utmost importance! As a bonus, joining a gym will enable you to meet new people, women as well as men. (Not to mention that it will improve your physical appearance.)
This is not a ploy to pick up women. You'll feel better because of it!
STEP 5- Establishing New networks
Look to create a network of single friends who really enjoy going out and meeting women. Nothing would probably encourage you more to actually enjoy going out and meeting women more than surrounding yourself with a few guys who like to have a good time and socialize.
Hanging with introverts who want to sit home and maybe play a card game or two is not going to help you meet more women. If you are going to hang with guys like that, then make sure you balance it with hanging with a few animals who want to hit the outdoor life.
OK, we are half way there. Part 2 of this article covers the next 5 steps that will enable you to attract desirable women. Please continue to the next section.
Wishing you the bestHealth Fitness Articles,
Cameron Teone
About the Author
Cameron Teone has taught dating seminars and workshops all over the world. His focus is on helping men meet and attract suitable women. He is the author of Building Attraction Secrets. You can read more about him at Dating Advice for Men
Thursday, January 22, 2009 | 0 Comments
Older Men Dating Younger Women Tips
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In our society, Older Men Dating Younger Women are not frowned upon, unless of course you happen to be dating a woman much, much younger than you. For the most part, however, women seem to prefer older men, though the reasons have not always been clear. As an older man dating a younger woman, here are some things to ponder on.
When dating a younger woman, you first have to show her that you are different from anyone else that she might have met. Young women appreciate older men because are strong, mature, and radiate confidence. This is more than just a mental preference; it is part of female instinct. Most females expect their mates to be mature and provide for the family. If you can fit this profile, your attractiveness is increased proportionately.
Doing a lot of important little things will often impress a young woman. Just being groomed properly at all times, smelling good, and even opening car doors will separate you from the young men that she often hangs out with. As much as possible, show her the advantages of dating an older man. For instance, take her out to an expensive restaurant that her younger suitors couldn't possibly afford. By doing so, you are sending the message that you are financially stable and can afford to support her.
Lastly, be patient. Younger women are usually exposed to men who want nothing more than to get them in bed. In keeping with your strategy of being "different," you will want to try the opposite tact. Don't rush into anything physical for the first couple of dates. Talk to her, listen to her, and get to know her better. Only when you are both comfortable with each other should you pursue physical contact.
Source : HappySoulmates.com
When dating a younger woman, you first have to show her that you are different from anyone else that she might have met. Young women appreciate older men because are strong, mature, and radiate confidence. This is more than just a mental preference; it is part of female instinct. Most females expect their mates to be mature and provide for the family. If you can fit this profile, your attractiveness is increased proportionately.
Doing a lot of important little things will often impress a young woman. Just being groomed properly at all times, smelling good, and even opening car doors will separate you from the young men that she often hangs out with. As much as possible, show her the advantages of dating an older man. For instance, take her out to an expensive restaurant that her younger suitors couldn't possibly afford. By doing so, you are sending the message that you are financially stable and can afford to support her.
Lastly, be patient. Younger women are usually exposed to men who want nothing more than to get them in bed. In keeping with your strategy of being "different," you will want to try the opposite tact. Don't rush into anything physical for the first couple of dates. Talk to her, listen to her, and get to know her better. Only when you are both comfortable with each other should you pursue physical contact.
Source : HappySoulmates.com
Thursday, January 22, 2009 | 0 Comments
Dating Tips for Men - 10 Really Bad Ways to Meet Women
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By Jackson Morris
For those of you strike out masters that think you have mad game that women just don’t recognize yet – you need to read this. Here at SI we want to make sure that you are making the most of your efforts in the web that is the wide world of dating. There are just as many don’ts to the dating world as there are "dos". Here are 10 that made that made the SI list.
No Following
Okay can you spell stalker? Never follow or appear to be "stalking" a girl to ask her out. By the time you get close enough to her she has already given your description to the local authorities. If you are going to approach a female do it "swiftly" not like you are agent for a secret service of purse snatchers.
Don't Burst Her Bubble
Give her some space – as if she is surrounded by a bubble. Don’t invade her bubble by bum rushing her and getting right in her grill. One way to measure how much space you should maintain between yourself and a female "initially" is ARM’S LENGTH. If you are less than a handshake away with someone new then you are too close.
It's All About Her
Want to strike out quick? Talk about YOU until she rolls her eyes. Women like attention. Talking about your stuff and not her stuff is NOT giving her attention it is commanding it. If you want to command her attention, get her talk about her.
Doctor Doctor!
The clinic, hospital or especially the therapy office in my opinion are the last place a girl feels sexy. Your chances of getting any action are slim but you might catch something else. Note to self: When a women is at the doctor treating her kitty – RUN.
In The Name Of The Lord
Okay for you hardcore guys out there that can not resist TEMPTATION – you heard it here first. Don’t hit on chicks at church. What kind of slug tries to get laid in the name of the Lord? Shame on you, how could you possibly be trusted after an act of blasphemy.
Kids In Tow?
Nobody likes the MILFs as much as I do but when a mother is with her child that is not the ULTIMATE time in HER BOOK that she wants to be hit on. If you have to do it at all, wait until she puts the kids in the car and before she gets in you ask her so the kids don’t hear.
The Loo
I would guess that hitting a female anywhere near a ladies room or worse a men’s room is kinda gross and in my opinion it also makes the creepy list - see #1. Do you really want to shake hands or introduce yourself to a women who just dropped a deuce seconds earlier?
Action
This one should have been higher on the list but I just thought of it. Movie theatres or any dark environment that does not include alcohol is off limits. Approaching women in a movie theatre, dark alley or dark parking lot is worse than #1.
Order In Court
You must really have a set of nuts on you if you are waiting for your turn in front of the judge and all you can think about is the female felons sharing the same bench. Women in a court room have a lot on their mind and your penis is not it. What gal wants a guy that has legal problems? Not my sister – she divorced her husband for getting a DUI (plus he was fat).
Honey & Vinegar
You will catch more flies with HONEY than Vinegar. Insults and sarcastic comments are not the way to make a first impression. Don’t tease with pseudo insults and quips – instead you should say sweet things that make her feel GOOD.
Guys, these are fundamental basics of "common sense". The most important thing to remember is "WHEN IN DOUBT, DON’T". If you live by that rule you can manage yourself effectively in both your approach and your ongoing success with a female. Always assume that the girl you are interested in is someone’s daughter or sister or mother. How would you want a man to approach your mom or your sister or your daughter? Once you answer that question you have your answer because then you will know what she does NOT like. Your mom or your sister or your daughter would want to the guy to smart, charming and at least APPEAR to know what he is doing. Dating is not brain surgery but if you do it wrong – the subject dies.
Source : Seduction Insider
For those of you strike out masters that think you have mad game that women just don’t recognize yet – you need to read this. Here at SI we want to make sure that you are making the most of your efforts in the web that is the wide world of dating. There are just as many don’ts to the dating world as there are "dos". Here are 10 that made that made the SI list.
No Following
Okay can you spell stalker? Never follow or appear to be "stalking" a girl to ask her out. By the time you get close enough to her she has already given your description to the local authorities. If you are going to approach a female do it "swiftly" not like you are agent for a secret service of purse snatchers.
Don't Burst Her Bubble
Give her some space – as if she is surrounded by a bubble. Don’t invade her bubble by bum rushing her and getting right in her grill. One way to measure how much space you should maintain between yourself and a female "initially" is ARM’S LENGTH. If you are less than a handshake away with someone new then you are too close.
It's All About Her
Want to strike out quick? Talk about YOU until she rolls her eyes. Women like attention. Talking about your stuff and not her stuff is NOT giving her attention it is commanding it. If you want to command her attention, get her talk about her.
Doctor Doctor!
The clinic, hospital or especially the therapy office in my opinion are the last place a girl feels sexy. Your chances of getting any action are slim but you might catch something else. Note to self: When a women is at the doctor treating her kitty – RUN.
In The Name Of The Lord
Okay for you hardcore guys out there that can not resist TEMPTATION – you heard it here first. Don’t hit on chicks at church. What kind of slug tries to get laid in the name of the Lord? Shame on you, how could you possibly be trusted after an act of blasphemy.
Kids In Tow?
Nobody likes the MILFs as much as I do but when a mother is with her child that is not the ULTIMATE time in HER BOOK that she wants to be hit on. If you have to do it at all, wait until she puts the kids in the car and before she gets in you ask her so the kids don’t hear.
The Loo
I would guess that hitting a female anywhere near a ladies room or worse a men’s room is kinda gross and in my opinion it also makes the creepy list - see #1. Do you really want to shake hands or introduce yourself to a women who just dropped a deuce seconds earlier?
Action
This one should have been higher on the list but I just thought of it. Movie theatres or any dark environment that does not include alcohol is off limits. Approaching women in a movie theatre, dark alley or dark parking lot is worse than #1.
Order In Court
You must really have a set of nuts on you if you are waiting for your turn in front of the judge and all you can think about is the female felons sharing the same bench. Women in a court room have a lot on their mind and your penis is not it. What gal wants a guy that has legal problems? Not my sister – she divorced her husband for getting a DUI (plus he was fat).
Honey & Vinegar
You will catch more flies with HONEY than Vinegar. Insults and sarcastic comments are not the way to make a first impression. Don’t tease with pseudo insults and quips – instead you should say sweet things that make her feel GOOD.
Guys, these are fundamental basics of "common sense". The most important thing to remember is "WHEN IN DOUBT, DON’T". If you live by that rule you can manage yourself effectively in both your approach and your ongoing success with a female. Always assume that the girl you are interested in is someone’s daughter or sister or mother. How would you want a man to approach your mom or your sister or your daughter? Once you answer that question you have your answer because then you will know what she does NOT like. Your mom or your sister or your daughter would want to the guy to smart, charming and at least APPEAR to know what he is doing. Dating is not brain surgery but if you do it wrong – the subject dies.
Source : Seduction Insider
Wednesday, January 21, 2009 | 0 Comments
Bible Dating Tips for Men
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By: Ed Snow
I had originally planned to follow up on my earlier “Holy Kiss” bit with a series on courting and marriage tips, but since my claims to romantic experience now have been exposed for the fraud that they are, I’ve decided to approach these topics with an appeal to biblical authority, rather than to my own questionable credentials. In the spirit of full disclosure, I should also state that, well, I don’t know about the rest of you, but when I got married I actually gave up dating–I just didn’t have the time for it anymore. So even my own marginal courting experience is … dated.
There are several online sources you can google for what the bible is supposed to say about courtship. In short, most of these websites declare that the whole Law and the Prophets (with respect to dating advice) hang on these two tips: (i) don’t date non-believers (including, without limitation, Mormons, Papists, Jews, Democrats, Unitarians and other Satanists, each of whom is expressly and clearly anathematized as to courtship right there in that-there bible) and (ii) whatever you do, you aren’t supposed to have a good time. What a disappointment–I thought I was going to learn something new! What these sources don’t tell you–and here’s a huge gap in biblical understanding–is what the bible says about picking up dates. It is to this topic we must now turn. Water holes, that is, the singles bars of the bible–what do they teach men about dating[1]?
1. Jacob goes to a well, hangs out with some guys while waiting for the women, does some recon intelligence work. Rachel shows up with some sheep and Jacob jumps up, moves the stone covering the mouth of the well and then he waters her sheep. Next, he grabs her, kisses her and … cries. Bible Dating Tips: Be physical–for instance, chicks dig it when you up and heave a boulder off the mouth of the water hole (wear a hernia belt). Get physical–smooch as early as possible, even before you say a single word to her. And, be in touch with your feelings–shed some tears if you want to. It’s okay. Especially effective after a liplock. (Gen. 29)
2. Moses goes to a well and, like that guy in the “Transporter” movies, beats the stuffing[2] out of some juvenile delinquent sheperd troublemakers and, voila, ends up with 7 babes to choose from. Bible Dating Tips: Dating is not a contact sport, it’s a hitting sport–it’s okay to throw some elbows if necessary to get rebound position. Whipping up on the competition is way better than tossing around a big boulder. Also, when you go to a well looking for women, 7:1 beats 1:1 odds any day, any time. (Ex. 2)
3. Kish says to his son Saul, “[A]rise, go and look for the asses.” Saul goes to a well and meets up with several maidens. So far so good–you can almost hear a ZZ Top song in your head reading along there. But then Saul starts asking for help in finding lost donkeys, completely missing the whole point! The girls all just stand there, looking him over, speechless, until one of them sighs and comes up with some directions, and off goes Saul again, preoccupied with searching for mere beasts of burden. And, he doesn’t even offer the women a drink! Bible Dating Tips: Focus man! We’ve all been there. It’s easy to get your directions wrong, go off course. And, yes this is a cliché, but don’t ask for directions. Ever. (1 Sam. 9)
Okay, I never said the bible would be a great dating guide for guys. Rest assured, however, if Joseph Smith were alive today producing the JST, I’m confident he would recognize this gaping hole in the scriptures and patch it up along the lines of the new Revolve New Testament, a version especially formatted for teenage girls. Says the publisher: “In focus groups, online polling, and one-on-one discussions, [we] found that the number one reason teens don’t read the Bible is that it is ‘too big and freaky looking.’” Their remedy? A New Testament in handy magazine format, a Christian Cosmo! Special features include, among others: Blabs (Q & A); Beauty Secrets; all of the books of the New Testament; and Guys Speak Out! I tell you this is going to be huge. Deseret Book should jump on the bandwagon now. Boy’s Life Book of Mormon? Seventeen D&C?[3] Before you know it kids will be tossing 4 glossy standard magazine works in a beach bag when they head for church–lose the dorky scripture tote bag! Guys, listen up–girls will love it.
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[1] This “meeting your woman at the well” type scene is used frequently in the bible–these are just a couple of examples. My favorite is when Jesus meets a woman at a well (Da Vinci Code readers take note). In this story, the ancient reader, no doubt well-versed in this type scene, is going to expect them to give each other some water and end up as a couple. There is indeed a discussion of marriage, says Jesus: “You are right in saying, `I have no husband’ for you have had five husbands, and he whom you now live with is not your husband.” The ancient reader probably got a kick out of that zinger. But that’s not what this scene is about because Jesus then offers her “living water.” Guess where this takes place? Jacob’s well. (John 4) The deeper I dig the more I find just how clever these biblical authors are.
[2] Actually, it only happens this way in the movie, a rare slight improvement on the book.
[3] Okay, that last title would just be wrong, and I’m not even an OBGYN.
Source : By Common Consent
I had originally planned to follow up on my earlier “Holy Kiss” bit with a series on courting and marriage tips, but since my claims to romantic experience now have been exposed for the fraud that they are, I’ve decided to approach these topics with an appeal to biblical authority, rather than to my own questionable credentials. In the spirit of full disclosure, I should also state that, well, I don’t know about the rest of you, but when I got married I actually gave up dating–I just didn’t have the time for it anymore. So even my own marginal courting experience is … dated.
There are several online sources you can google for what the bible is supposed to say about courtship. In short, most of these websites declare that the whole Law and the Prophets (with respect to dating advice) hang on these two tips: (i) don’t date non-believers (including, without limitation, Mormons, Papists, Jews, Democrats, Unitarians and other Satanists, each of whom is expressly and clearly anathematized as to courtship right there in that-there bible) and (ii) whatever you do, you aren’t supposed to have a good time. What a disappointment–I thought I was going to learn something new! What these sources don’t tell you–and here’s a huge gap in biblical understanding–is what the bible says about picking up dates. It is to this topic we must now turn. Water holes, that is, the singles bars of the bible–what do they teach men about dating[1]?
1. Jacob goes to a well, hangs out with some guys while waiting for the women, does some recon intelligence work. Rachel shows up with some sheep and Jacob jumps up, moves the stone covering the mouth of the well and then he waters her sheep. Next, he grabs her, kisses her and … cries. Bible Dating Tips: Be physical–for instance, chicks dig it when you up and heave a boulder off the mouth of the water hole (wear a hernia belt). Get physical–smooch as early as possible, even before you say a single word to her. And, be in touch with your feelings–shed some tears if you want to. It’s okay. Especially effective after a liplock. (Gen. 29)
2. Moses goes to a well and, like that guy in the “Transporter” movies, beats the stuffing[2] out of some juvenile delinquent sheperd troublemakers and, voila, ends up with 7 babes to choose from. Bible Dating Tips: Dating is not a contact sport, it’s a hitting sport–it’s okay to throw some elbows if necessary to get rebound position. Whipping up on the competition is way better than tossing around a big boulder. Also, when you go to a well looking for women, 7:1 beats 1:1 odds any day, any time. (Ex. 2)
3. Kish says to his son Saul, “[A]rise, go and look for the asses.” Saul goes to a well and meets up with several maidens. So far so good–you can almost hear a ZZ Top song in your head reading along there. But then Saul starts asking for help in finding lost donkeys, completely missing the whole point! The girls all just stand there, looking him over, speechless, until one of them sighs and comes up with some directions, and off goes Saul again, preoccupied with searching for mere beasts of burden. And, he doesn’t even offer the women a drink! Bible Dating Tips: Focus man! We’ve all been there. It’s easy to get your directions wrong, go off course. And, yes this is a cliché, but don’t ask for directions. Ever. (1 Sam. 9)
Okay, I never said the bible would be a great dating guide for guys. Rest assured, however, if Joseph Smith were alive today producing the JST, I’m confident he would recognize this gaping hole in the scriptures and patch it up along the lines of the new Revolve New Testament, a version especially formatted for teenage girls. Says the publisher: “In focus groups, online polling, and one-on-one discussions, [we] found that the number one reason teens don’t read the Bible is that it is ‘too big and freaky looking.’” Their remedy? A New Testament in handy magazine format, a Christian Cosmo! Special features include, among others: Blabs (Q & A); Beauty Secrets; all of the books of the New Testament; and Guys Speak Out! I tell you this is going to be huge. Deseret Book should jump on the bandwagon now. Boy’s Life Book of Mormon? Seventeen D&C?[3] Before you know it kids will be tossing 4 glossy standard magazine works in a beach bag when they head for church–lose the dorky scripture tote bag! Guys, listen up–girls will love it.
____________________________________________________________________
[1] This “meeting your woman at the well” type scene is used frequently in the bible–these are just a couple of examples. My favorite is when Jesus meets a woman at a well (Da Vinci Code readers take note). In this story, the ancient reader, no doubt well-versed in this type scene, is going to expect them to give each other some water and end up as a couple. There is indeed a discussion of marriage, says Jesus: “You are right in saying, `I have no husband’ for you have had five husbands, and he whom you now live with is not your husband.” The ancient reader probably got a kick out of that zinger. But that’s not what this scene is about because Jesus then offers her “living water.” Guess where this takes place? Jacob’s well. (John 4) The deeper I dig the more I find just how clever these biblical authors are.
[2] Actually, it only happens this way in the movie, a rare slight improvement on the book.
[3] Okay, that last title would just be wrong, and I’m not even an OBGYN.
Source : By Common Consent
Wednesday, January 21, 2009 | 0 Comments
5 Great Dating Tips for Shy Men
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By: Associated Content
We women often think all men are confident, sure of themselves and have no problems getting women. Some men are like that, but many aren't. I've met a lot of shy men throughout my life and almost all of them have had no idea how to meet women, or what to say if they do meet a woman they like.
So, from a woman, here are my Top 5 Dating Tips to help shy guys meet women.
1. Don't try to meet women in bars. The most important tip I think there is. Just like women don't usually want to meet a potential boyfriend in a bar, I wouldn't recommend trying to meet a potential girlfriend in one. Bars are loud, smoky and usually full of people who are quite drunk. You're not only usually going to find more of a Party Girl in a bar, but you're also likely to be disappointed when you meet her in the daylight. In the bar, in her drunken stupor, you may have looked like somebody she wanted to get to know better. In daylight, things and people can look very different. There's no point setting yourself up for disappointment before you even start so - avoid the bars!
2. Join a few clubs. At first, don't even worry about trying to find a girlfriend. Just sign up for a few clubs or classes that YOU might find interesting. Walking clubs, movie nights, political organizations, dog walking groups, sports clubs, French classes, cooking classes, computer classes - they're all places where, most importantly, you'll probably make some new friends. They're also places where you might meet an interesting woman and surprise surprise, when you do, she'll probably have something in common with you.
3.When you do meet a woman you like, don't think about her as a possible girlfriend. The secret to a great relationship is to be the best of friends. If you meet a woman you think you might like, get to know her first. Put it out of your head that she might be a potential girlfriend or wife. Instead, learn more about her, enjoy her company and have fun.
When you do this, the woman is less uncomfortable or threatened and she'll let her guard down, and you won't be worrying about trying to impress. That way, you'll both be having a great time before you know it and who knows what might happen?
4. Be liked for yourself. Don't try to be somebody you're not. Don't pretend you're a bad boy, a jerk, a ladies man etc. if you're not. Women almost always hate that but, even if she likes it, who wants someone to fall in love with somebody they're not anyway? You can't keep it up for the rest of your life, so why even start?
Be yourself. Relax. Talk about the things you're interested in, ask her questions about herself, find something you both have in common and discuss it. Then, even if she's not 'The One', you still might have found someone you can talk to and she could turn out to be a great friend.
5. Just do it! When you meet a woman and you feel that overpowering fear coming on and you just know you're not going to have the courage to talk to her. Just do it. Forget the fear, take a deep breath, walk right over and say "Hi". Women usually like the confident, strong, outgoing guys. But here's a secret - MOST GUYS ARE FAKING IT. So, you fake it too. Take a deep breath, relax your body, chin up, shoulders back and walk over there like you own the room. By the time you get there, she'll think you do, and she'll already be interested. This is what guys who are successful with women do. They all started by faking it and eventually they weren't even faking it anymore.
With these 5 quick tips, you too can meet some great women and can pluck up the courage to talk to any woman. There are women everywhere. Make it a point every day to talk to at least three women you don't know, even if it's just the woman behind the drycleaner's counter. Before you know it, you'll be just as relaxed as the next guy and having fun while you're at it. Good luck!
Source : Life123
We women often think all men are confident, sure of themselves and have no problems getting women. Some men are like that, but many aren't. I've met a lot of shy men throughout my life and almost all of them have had no idea how to meet women, or what to say if they do meet a woman they like.
So, from a woman, here are my Top 5 Dating Tips to help shy guys meet women.
1. Don't try to meet women in bars. The most important tip I think there is. Just like women don't usually want to meet a potential boyfriend in a bar, I wouldn't recommend trying to meet a potential girlfriend in one. Bars are loud, smoky and usually full of people who are quite drunk. You're not only usually going to find more of a Party Girl in a bar, but you're also likely to be disappointed when you meet her in the daylight. In the bar, in her drunken stupor, you may have looked like somebody she wanted to get to know better. In daylight, things and people can look very different. There's no point setting yourself up for disappointment before you even start so - avoid the bars!
2. Join a few clubs. At first, don't even worry about trying to find a girlfriend. Just sign up for a few clubs or classes that YOU might find interesting. Walking clubs, movie nights, political organizations, dog walking groups, sports clubs, French classes, cooking classes, computer classes - they're all places where, most importantly, you'll probably make some new friends. They're also places where you might meet an interesting woman and surprise surprise, when you do, she'll probably have something in common with you.
3.When you do meet a woman you like, don't think about her as a possible girlfriend. The secret to a great relationship is to be the best of friends. If you meet a woman you think you might like, get to know her first. Put it out of your head that she might be a potential girlfriend or wife. Instead, learn more about her, enjoy her company and have fun.
When you do this, the woman is less uncomfortable or threatened and she'll let her guard down, and you won't be worrying about trying to impress. That way, you'll both be having a great time before you know it and who knows what might happen?
4. Be liked for yourself. Don't try to be somebody you're not. Don't pretend you're a bad boy, a jerk, a ladies man etc. if you're not. Women almost always hate that but, even if she likes it, who wants someone to fall in love with somebody they're not anyway? You can't keep it up for the rest of your life, so why even start?
Be yourself. Relax. Talk about the things you're interested in, ask her questions about herself, find something you both have in common and discuss it. Then, even if she's not 'The One', you still might have found someone you can talk to and she could turn out to be a great friend.
5. Just do it! When you meet a woman and you feel that overpowering fear coming on and you just know you're not going to have the courage to talk to her. Just do it. Forget the fear, take a deep breath, walk right over and say "Hi". Women usually like the confident, strong, outgoing guys. But here's a secret - MOST GUYS ARE FAKING IT. So, you fake it too. Take a deep breath, relax your body, chin up, shoulders back and walk over there like you own the room. By the time you get there, she'll think you do, and she'll already be interested. This is what guys who are successful with women do. They all started by faking it and eventually they weren't even faking it anymore.
With these 5 quick tips, you too can meet some great women and can pluck up the courage to talk to any woman. There are women everywhere. Make it a point every day to talk to at least three women you don't know, even if it's just the woman behind the drycleaner's counter. Before you know it, you'll be just as relaxed as the next guy and having fun while you're at it. Good luck!
Source : Life123
Tuesday, January 20, 2009 | 0 Comments
Dating Tips for Men - How to Start a Conversation With a Woman
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By Kenny Mack, eHow Editor
That woman you want to talk to is not going to walk over, sit down, and ask your name - even if she's interested in you. If a conversation between the two of you is ever going to happen, it's up to you to make it happen. If she made and held eye contact with you, she probably wants you to. Follow these dating tips for men to get that conversation started and make yourself stand out from every other guy who wants to talk to her, but for whatever reason, doesn't.
Step1. You must be non-threatening, so you cannot be aggressive in any way.
Step2. Smile. That way, when she makes eye contact with you, she will have to smile back.
Step3. Do not be the first to look away.
Step4. Once she breaks eye contact, make your way over to her within three seconds. Do not appear to hesitate.
Step5. If she's alone, slow down as you walk past her and with your feet and shoulders pointed away from her, turn your head and speak to her over your shoulder. If she's with a friend or two, slow down as you walk past the group and speak over your shoulder to the friend furthest from the woman you're interested in.
Step6. While still smiling, say, "I need a woman's opinion." Women love to share their opinions, so this should get her (or their) attention. But nobody likes the idea of having to talk to a random stranger all night, so let her (or them) know you don't plan on staying by saying, "Then I have to go." Don't wait for permission, go right into the question.
Step7. At this point, you'll need to cater your question to your audience. If she seems to be in her mid-twenties or younger, ask, "who will be a better mother: Britney Spears or Nicole Richie?"If you're asked why you care, say, "a female friend of mine disagreed with me, and I want to see if it's just her, or if it's a woman thing." If you're anywhere in the Washington, D.C. metro area (regardless of her age), or if she's in her late twenties or older, ask, "are we ready for a woman President?" If she asks your opinion, answer in the affirmative, no matter what you actually believe.
Step8. After she (or they) is engaged on conversation, then (and only then) should you turn your body toward her. You'll be glad you have that fresh breath.
Tips & Warnings
* Keep smiling, even if you get shot down.
* Keep trying with different women, even if you get shot down.
* Do not be intimidated by her or her group.
* If she's with a guy, do not assume they're "together."
Source : eHow.com
That woman you want to talk to is not going to walk over, sit down, and ask your name - even if she's interested in you. If a conversation between the two of you is ever going to happen, it's up to you to make it happen. If she made and held eye contact with you, she probably wants you to. Follow these dating tips for men to get that conversation started and make yourself stand out from every other guy who wants to talk to her, but for whatever reason, doesn't.
Step1. You must be non-threatening, so you cannot be aggressive in any way.
Step2. Smile. That way, when she makes eye contact with you, she will have to smile back.
Step3. Do not be the first to look away.
Step4. Once she breaks eye contact, make your way over to her within three seconds. Do not appear to hesitate.
Step5. If she's alone, slow down as you walk past her and with your feet and shoulders pointed away from her, turn your head and speak to her over your shoulder. If she's with a friend or two, slow down as you walk past the group and speak over your shoulder to the friend furthest from the woman you're interested in.
Step6. While still smiling, say, "I need a woman's opinion." Women love to share their opinions, so this should get her (or their) attention. But nobody likes the idea of having to talk to a random stranger all night, so let her (or them) know you don't plan on staying by saying, "Then I have to go." Don't wait for permission, go right into the question.
Step7. At this point, you'll need to cater your question to your audience. If she seems to be in her mid-twenties or younger, ask, "who will be a better mother: Britney Spears or Nicole Richie?"If you're asked why you care, say, "a female friend of mine disagreed with me, and I want to see if it's just her, or if it's a woman thing." If you're anywhere in the Washington, D.C. metro area (regardless of her age), or if she's in her late twenties or older, ask, "are we ready for a woman President?" If she asks your opinion, answer in the affirmative, no matter what you actually believe.
Step8. After she (or they) is engaged on conversation, then (and only then) should you turn your body toward her. You'll be glad you have that fresh breath.
Tips & Warnings
* Keep smiling, even if you get shot down.
* Keep trying with different women, even if you get shot down.
* Do not be intimidated by her or her group.
* If she's with a guy, do not assume they're "together."
Source : eHow.com
Wednesday, January 14, 2009 | 0 Comments
Dating Tips for Men: Two Places to Meet More Women Than you Can Handle
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You have probably seen it in the movies or on television. A group of men get together at their favorite hang out place and lament how tough it is to meet a good woman. You may even have experienced this situation in your own life.
Of course you can always meet women by going to a bar or a club. The problem with that is there will be a lot of competition from men who are looking for the same thing. The other dilemma is woman know this so the chances are they will be on their guard. It may come as a surprise to some of us but many women who visit nightclubs DO NOT want to be hit on.
If you want to meet women you have to go to places where the atmosphere is more conducive, the ratio of woman to men is greater and the competition is at a minimum. Sounds simple enough right? It can be. Check out these places and dating tips for men.
1. The Boutiques
You never have to worry about the ratio of women to men at these places because you will always be outnumbered. Most men will go out of their way to avoid boutiques. Yes they want to meet women but there are limits and going to a women's clothing store qualifies as that limit. It's just way too feminine.
And you know what? That's the point. Check your ego at the door, be confident in your masculinity and go for it. What you will find is an incredible variety of women visiting these places on a daily basis. Now you are not going in there to lurk around to the point you make women uncomfortable and store security edgy. Go in there with the intention to buy something for the female relatives in your life. During the course of this, you can strike up a conversation with some of the clientele. Ask them for advice or compliment them on what they have purchased (and not just the racy stuff either). No doubt going to a boutique could make you a little uncomfortable and that is more than okay. This amuses many women and some of them will initiate the conversation with you. Enjoy and go with the flow.
2. Fabric and Craft Stores
Not every woman buys clothes off the rack. Many prefer to make their own .Even if fabric stores are not as prominent as they once were; they still exist in great quantity. The same goes for arts and crafts stores. You will run into women looking for material to create various art projects. These places are a goldmine for two reasons. One: like the boutiques, the ratio of women to men is overwhelming and two: creative women are some of the most fascinating women you could ever want to meet.
Sure you can sit around with the guys and sing the blues about how tough it is to meet women. You can also go to the same bars and clubs and compete with way too many other guys for the attention of a woman who will probably be on her guard anyway. Or you can get creative and start meeting new and different women at the boutiques, fabric and craft stores. Sure if the guys find out, they may laugh at you but guess what? You will be easily meeting new, attractive highly creative women. They won't.
About the Author
Daryl Campbell invites you to get your free copy of 101 Romantic Ideas along with more relationship and dating tips, tools, videos and up to the minute news and information at The Dating Tip.
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Of course you can always meet women by going to a bar or a club. The problem with that is there will be a lot of competition from men who are looking for the same thing. The other dilemma is woman know this so the chances are they will be on their guard. It may come as a surprise to some of us but many women who visit nightclubs DO NOT want to be hit on.
If you want to meet women you have to go to places where the atmosphere is more conducive, the ratio of woman to men is greater and the competition is at a minimum. Sounds simple enough right? It can be. Check out these places and dating tips for men.
1. The Boutiques
You never have to worry about the ratio of women to men at these places because you will always be outnumbered. Most men will go out of their way to avoid boutiques. Yes they want to meet women but there are limits and going to a women's clothing store qualifies as that limit. It's just way too feminine.
And you know what? That's the point. Check your ego at the door, be confident in your masculinity and go for it. What you will find is an incredible variety of women visiting these places on a daily basis. Now you are not going in there to lurk around to the point you make women uncomfortable and store security edgy. Go in there with the intention to buy something for the female relatives in your life. During the course of this, you can strike up a conversation with some of the clientele. Ask them for advice or compliment them on what they have purchased (and not just the racy stuff either). No doubt going to a boutique could make you a little uncomfortable and that is more than okay. This amuses many women and some of them will initiate the conversation with you. Enjoy and go with the flow.
2. Fabric and Craft Stores
Not every woman buys clothes off the rack. Many prefer to make their own .Even if fabric stores are not as prominent as they once were; they still exist in great quantity. The same goes for arts and crafts stores. You will run into women looking for material to create various art projects. These places are a goldmine for two reasons. One: like the boutiques, the ratio of women to men is overwhelming and two: creative women are some of the most fascinating women you could ever want to meet.
Sure you can sit around with the guys and sing the blues about how tough it is to meet women. You can also go to the same bars and clubs and compete with way too many other guys for the attention of a woman who will probably be on her guard anyway. Or you can get creative and start meeting new and different women at the boutiques, fabric and craft stores. Sure if the guys find out, they may laugh at you but guess what? You will be easily meeting new, attractive highly creative women. They won't.
About the Author
Daryl Campbell invites you to get your free copy of 101 Romantic Ideas along with more relationship and dating tips, tools, videos and up to the minute news and information at The Dating Tip.
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Wednesday, January 14, 2009 | 0 Comments
Dating Tips for Men
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You are a guy who knows how to date, you are a guy who hasn't dated in years, you are a guy who has never been successful with women. Whatever your situation there are some common dating tips for men to follow when venturing into the dating jungle. These dating tips for men are simply to protect your emotional state and to ensure even handed success. Women are trained from day one in the art of dating warfare. They have a physical and emotional arsenal that you may never hope to match. But don't be outgunned, be prepared my friends as the dating battle isn't over yet buddy.
1. Look your best. Get some decent clothes and shoes. Women always look at your shoes even if the last time you checked your Nike's out was 1996. Get clothes that fit you, suit you and are contemporary. Don't just buy one outfit, sort out your entire wardrobe. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of her? Oh yes and buy a good well tailored suit, there is no excuse not to.
2. Get your hygiene and styling sorted out. Down to the barbers and sort out your hair, get a decent style if possible. If you don't have much hair still get down to the salon and either get your head shaved or something you can handle. Then it is off to the shops with you for good quality cologne and a grooming kit. Yes that means some expense. Men are so often criticized for smelling bad. Get into a regular showering routine and smell good always. Women appreciate it.
3. Sort out your job if you have one. Women want a man who has some ambition in life so coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch (by the way I love skateboarding!). Any job is better than none, but knuckle down and sort out some direction in your life. Change job if need be but at least try and look like you you have something of a career. If you have a manual job, at least have some plans to work for yourself. If you already do, then you are on the right track but know what you are about work wise and have some idea of your future because they will be asking questions about your prospects even if they pretend it isn't important. It is.
4. Get your knowledge levels up. Make sure you are up to date with current affairs, watch the news and read quality papers. Women do not appreciate stupidity and laziness is no excuse either. Current affairs are important in showing you know all about the world outside. If you travel a lot then this will help tremendously, if you don't have plans to travel, get some. Being able and willing to sort out vacations is essential in the grand scheme of things.
5. Do not extol the virtues of drinking in the bar 5 nights a week. This will never win any fair princess's heart. If you love your booze sort yourself out as there are other things in life too. Taking your lady for a drink is fine, but give them the impression that you live in there will get you absolutely nowhere - fast.
6. If you love your sport then fine,. If sport is a religion you may have a problem but everything by degrees guys. If you are serious about dating then ramming the subject of soccer, ball games or football down your date's throat will put them off in record time. Sport to the uninitiated is completely boring and shows not only sheep mentality to a woman but lack of thought, creativity or inspiration. Millions of girls love sport too and that is fine but don't make your passion into a one-sided one.
9. Never expect sex on a first date. If all you are after is sex you have come to the wrong place for reading material. If you are looking for the girl of your dreams there is nothing more sexy than a patient man. You are easily capable of waiting for the right woman so do it instead of thinking with your balls.
10. Sort out your educational knowledge of manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman likes being treated well, particularly with respect. Lose the coarse language, the swear words, the rudeness and the laziness. Know how to eat in a top restaurant, know about fashion and jewelry and in particular flowers. Know how to hold a door open for a woman, let her go first and help her with her seat. Listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. Show her respect and manners at every step and you should not go wrong.
11. Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don't turn into a one man entertainer. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. Listen to things she tells you about her and remember them. Women love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things she told you will impress her by the bucketful. Fact.
12. Give up smoking now.
13. Lean to dance even if you have two left flat feet. Women love to dance and dancing is a physical contact sport (or can be). It is also romantic and sexy. You can be the world's worst dancer, I don't care. But if you stay seated when she is on that dance floor you may as well not exist. If you can join Salsa and dancing classes all the better. You don't need to be Travolta but you should have an idea of the basics of rhythm. Get started today.
Source : TopDatingTips.com
1. Look your best. Get some decent clothes and shoes. Women always look at your shoes even if the last time you checked your Nike's out was 1996. Get clothes that fit you, suit you and are contemporary. Don't just buy one outfit, sort out your entire wardrobe. If you can't take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of her? Oh yes and buy a good well tailored suit, there is no excuse not to.
2. Get your hygiene and styling sorted out. Down to the barbers and sort out your hair, get a decent style if possible. If you don't have much hair still get down to the salon and either get your head shaved or something you can handle. Then it is off to the shops with you for good quality cologne and a grooming kit. Yes that means some expense. Men are so often criticized for smelling bad. Get into a regular showering routine and smell good always. Women appreciate it.
3. Sort out your job if you have one. Women want a man who has some ambition in life so coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch (by the way I love skateboarding!). Any job is better than none, but knuckle down and sort out some direction in your life. Change job if need be but at least try and look like you you have something of a career. If you have a manual job, at least have some plans to work for yourself. If you already do, then you are on the right track but know what you are about work wise and have some idea of your future because they will be asking questions about your prospects even if they pretend it isn't important. It is.
4. Get your knowledge levels up. Make sure you are up to date with current affairs, watch the news and read quality papers. Women do not appreciate stupidity and laziness is no excuse either. Current affairs are important in showing you know all about the world outside. If you travel a lot then this will help tremendously, if you don't have plans to travel, get some. Being able and willing to sort out vacations is essential in the grand scheme of things.
5. Do not extol the virtues of drinking in the bar 5 nights a week. This will never win any fair princess's heart. If you love your booze sort yourself out as there are other things in life too. Taking your lady for a drink is fine, but give them the impression that you live in there will get you absolutely nowhere - fast.
6. If you love your sport then fine,. If sport is a religion you may have a problem but everything by degrees guys. If you are serious about dating then ramming the subject of soccer, ball games or football down your date's throat will put them off in record time. Sport to the uninitiated is completely boring and shows not only sheep mentality to a woman but lack of thought, creativity or inspiration. Millions of girls love sport too and that is fine but don't make your passion into a one-sided one.
9. Never expect sex on a first date. If all you are after is sex you have come to the wrong place for reading material. If you are looking for the girl of your dreams there is nothing more sexy than a patient man. You are easily capable of waiting for the right woman so do it instead of thinking with your balls.
10. Sort out your educational knowledge of manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman likes being treated well, particularly with respect. Lose the coarse language, the swear words, the rudeness and the laziness. Know how to eat in a top restaurant, know about fashion and jewelry and in particular flowers. Know how to hold a door open for a woman, let her go first and help her with her seat. Listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. Show her respect and manners at every step and you should not go wrong.
11. Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don't turn into a one man entertainer. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. Listen to things she tells you about her and remember them. Women love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things she told you will impress her by the bucketful. Fact.
12. Give up smoking now.
13. Lean to dance even if you have two left flat feet. Women love to dance and dancing is a physical contact sport (or can be). It is also romantic and sexy. You can be the world's worst dancer, I don't care. But if you stay seated when she is on that dance floor you may as well not exist. If you can join Salsa and dancing classes all the better. You don't need to be Travolta but you should have an idea of the basics of rhythm. Get started today.
Source : TopDatingTips.com
Wednesday, January 14, 2009 | 0 Comments
Zero Hype Dating Tips for Men : How to Attract Women Easily
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It seems that just as a man thinks he has attracting a woman all figured out, he realizes he does not know a thing!
Rather than trying so hard to figure out women, guys would do well to spend some time on themselves. Guys would do better focusing on personal habits rather than attracting women; that will work better than simply trying to figure out ladies.
So, what should a man focus on about himself if he wants to attract women? Here are some dating tips for men.
For beginners, men must be groomed and tidy. Gone are the days when hair salons and spas were full of women. Now, it is not uncommon to see a heterosexual male in a nail technician’s chair as it is a woman.
Men should not be afraid to take measures to improve their grooming habits. In addition to attracting women, those in your work place will also take notice. Careers as well as personal lives have been advanced by paying attention to personal appearance.
More and more, men are finding that attracting women means paying attention to their grooming habits. First impressions are vital to attracting women, so having a neat personal appearance is a must.
What can a man do to improve grooming habits in order to attract women?
Paying close attention to facial hair is a must. Be sure to ask your barber or hairstylist to trim your eyebrows, nose hair, and ear hair at every hair cut. As for the hair on the head, a man should be certain that he does not go too long between hair cuts if he wants to improve a woman.
In addition to hair, men should also be sure that their nails and hands are free of dirt. Proper skin care can also attract women to a man.
Clothing is another area where men struggle. Women are attracted to men who are well put-together and wrinkle free. If a man is unsure what colors match and what styles best suit him, he should go to several different stores and seek the help of a sales consultant.
Improving appearance also has a side benefit of improving self esteem. Women will be attracted to men who are confident in themselves rather than those who are not so sure about themselves or their appearance.
The way a man views himself is generally the way a woman will view him as well. If a man does not feel good about the person he is, he should consider therapy so that he can attract a woman who will value him for who he is.
Attracting women is also about goal setting and attainment. Taking the time to figure out goals and set time lines can go a long way towards attracting women. A woman who meets a man who is striving to attain goals knows that the man is serious about his commitments and what he finds important.
In order to attract women, men must always be themselves. When considering appearance, do not change your appearance to match someone you are not. Instead, focus on being the best person you can be, inside and out.
A man who is being himself not only knows exactly who he is, he is unwilling to compromise his behavior in order to please other people. Women are attracted to men who stand for what they believe in and do not back down from a moral challenge.
Being yourself also means being honest and sincere. Women are attracted to men who know themselves well and project themselves in a positive way. Women are attracted to men who will be honest with them during tough times.
When a man knows who he is, is not ashamed of who he is, and tries to be sincere and honest at all times, he will attract women with little difficulty.
Another great way for men to attract women is cultivating an interest in her hobbies.
By showing interest and being willing to participate in her interests, a man is showing a woman that what is important to him is important to her.
A woman who knows a man is trying to tune into what she feels is important is attracted to him. She feels that the man is more concerned with making her happy than making himself happy.
In closing, attracting a woman is sometimes more about a man knowing who he is and taking care of personal grooming habits rather than it asking every woman he meets for a date. Taking time to attend to personal appearance and moral character are great ways of attracting women.
Source : Dating404.com
Rather than trying so hard to figure out women, guys would do well to spend some time on themselves. Guys would do better focusing on personal habits rather than attracting women; that will work better than simply trying to figure out ladies.
So, what should a man focus on about himself if he wants to attract women? Here are some dating tips for men.
For beginners, men must be groomed and tidy. Gone are the days when hair salons and spas were full of women. Now, it is not uncommon to see a heterosexual male in a nail technician’s chair as it is a woman.
Men should not be afraid to take measures to improve their grooming habits. In addition to attracting women, those in your work place will also take notice. Careers as well as personal lives have been advanced by paying attention to personal appearance.
More and more, men are finding that attracting women means paying attention to their grooming habits. First impressions are vital to attracting women, so having a neat personal appearance is a must.
What can a man do to improve grooming habits in order to attract women?
Paying close attention to facial hair is a must. Be sure to ask your barber or hairstylist to trim your eyebrows, nose hair, and ear hair at every hair cut. As for the hair on the head, a man should be certain that he does not go too long between hair cuts if he wants to improve a woman.
In addition to hair, men should also be sure that their nails and hands are free of dirt. Proper skin care can also attract women to a man.
Clothing is another area where men struggle. Women are attracted to men who are well put-together and wrinkle free. If a man is unsure what colors match and what styles best suit him, he should go to several different stores and seek the help of a sales consultant.
Improving appearance also has a side benefit of improving self esteem. Women will be attracted to men who are confident in themselves rather than those who are not so sure about themselves or their appearance.
The way a man views himself is generally the way a woman will view him as well. If a man does not feel good about the person he is, he should consider therapy so that he can attract a woman who will value him for who he is.
Attracting women is also about goal setting and attainment. Taking the time to figure out goals and set time lines can go a long way towards attracting women. A woman who meets a man who is striving to attain goals knows that the man is serious about his commitments and what he finds important.
In order to attract women, men must always be themselves. When considering appearance, do not change your appearance to match someone you are not. Instead, focus on being the best person you can be, inside and out.
A man who is being himself not only knows exactly who he is, he is unwilling to compromise his behavior in order to please other people. Women are attracted to men who stand for what they believe in and do not back down from a moral challenge.
Being yourself also means being honest and sincere. Women are attracted to men who know themselves well and project themselves in a positive way. Women are attracted to men who will be honest with them during tough times.
When a man knows who he is, is not ashamed of who he is, and tries to be sincere and honest at all times, he will attract women with little difficulty.
Another great way for men to attract women is cultivating an interest in her hobbies.
By showing interest and being willing to participate in her interests, a man is showing a woman that what is important to him is important to her.
A woman who knows a man is trying to tune into what she feels is important is attracted to him. She feels that the man is more concerned with making her happy than making himself happy.
In closing, attracting a woman is sometimes more about a man knowing who he is and taking care of personal grooming habits rather than it asking every woman he meets for a date. Taking time to attend to personal appearance and moral character are great ways of attracting women.
Source : Dating404.com
Wednesday, January 14, 2009 | 0 Comments
Top 10: Dating Tips for Men To Flirt With A Woman Sexually
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Did you know that talking about sex with a woman can be the first step to actually having it? Unfortunately, most guys screw up big time when they try to turn a conversation in that direction and they end up coming across as “creepy” or “clueless.” The solution here is to learn the ways to flirt with a woman sexually. Here are 10 dating tips for men to help you do it.
No.10 in our dating tips for men list - Speak in a sexy way
Think you can turn a woman on with a high-pitched, squeaky voice? Think again. Women pay more attention to your tone of voice than to the words you speak. When you flirt with a woman in a sexual way, work on improving your delivery. Speak slowly, hold eye contact, deepen your voice, and pause. Be careful not to be overly dramatic and cheesy; think James Bond, not Austin Powers. These style-points help you convey powerful sexual undertones in your communications with women and they will help you build attraction and sexual tension fast.
No.9 - Accuse her of being the aggressor
One of the best ways to get the fun started is to accuse a woman of trying to seduce you. For example, if she mentions something about her house, such as: “I just moved into a new place” or “Do you know how to install a wireless router?” you should say: “Wow, you are trying to get me to come over to your house already? I’m not surprised.” Women love it when you do this. Don’t be surprised if she really does try to get you to come over soon after.
No.8 - Show her you're a stud
Women want men who know how to please them, but you can't come right out and say: "I'm a great lover." Instead, use sexual innuendo to indirectly convey this message. For example, say you are at your place making a drink for a woman and she says: "Wow, you're good at that." Look her square in the eye and say: "I'm good at a lot of things." She’ll get the hint that you’re a stud and be dying to find out more.
No.7 - Get her to "use you"
Women accuse men of using them for sex all the time, so why not turn the tables? The next time you do something considerate for a woman, tell her: "So, you're using me already… next thing I know you’ll be trying to use me for other things as well." She’ll find this role-reversal hilarious and it’s a great way to bring up the topic of sex in a safe, fun and non-threatening way.
No.6 - Make "boring" conversation sexy
When most men first meet a woman, they ask her typical, boring questions like: "Where are you from?” and “What do you do for work?" Women usually hate it when guys do this, but you can set yourself apart by using these drab questions to turn things sexual, quickly. For example, when you find out a woman is from, say, Spain, you can say to her: "Hmm, you know what they say about women from Spain, don't you?" Then let your sly smile and rock-solid eye contact suggest that you know Spanish women are, well, let's just say a lot of fun.
No.5 - Bring sex into the situation
A great way to flirt sexually with a woman is to compare some of your “outside the bedroom” activities to what goes on inside the bedroom. For example, let’s say you get a woman a cup of tea; you can follow up by saying: "Looks like you’re on the receiving end today. Do you always receive or do you like to give at times too?" Crack a slight smile and she will know exactly what you are talking about.
No.4 - Pay her back
Let's say a woman does something nice for you and then teases you by saying: "That's OK; you can pay me back later." Why not make the currency sexual? Say something like: "Pay you back? Hmm, I'm short on cash right now. Do you have any creative payment options in mind?"
No.3 - Tell her she's naughty
Another fun way to tease a woman in a sexual way is to accuse her of being “naughty” in her everyday activities. For example, if a woman tells you she was just in the shower, ask her how it was. If she gives any positive response, reply with something like: "Nice shower? Interesting. What exactly were you doing in there that made it so nice? I'm curious."
No.2 - Let her know you know
Want to know a secret about female sexuality that 99% of men don't know? Here it is: Many women feel compelled to vacuum their house when they're ovulating. Some experts believe it has something to do with wanting to "clean the nest" before laying her "egg." So, when a woman tells you she is vacuuming, say: "Vacuuming? Are you ovulating or something?" She’ll be stunned that you know this and wonder what else you know about female sexuality. Of course, if she doesn’t know what you mean, fill her in. Women love it when you teach them something new -- especially about themselves.
No.1 in our dating tips for men list - Find the double-meanings
The English language is literally packed with words you can twist around to create sexual meanings. Wet, juicy, hard, fast, hot -- the possibilities are endless. For example, if she says her drink is big, you can reply with something like: "Big can be a good thing, don't you think?" You'll be surprised how easy it is to add a bit of sexuality to everyday conversations once you start looking for opportunities.
Source : AskMen.com
Tuesday, January 13, 2009 | 0 Comments
Dating Tips for Men - 5 Myths Preventing Men From Attracting Woman
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Myth #1: Being an Attractive Man Is Always About Appealing To What Women Say They Want
If you are one of those vehement supporters of this myth, you should get a noose and hang yourself - you'll be better off. Trying to get a woman to like you by attempting to live up to her ideal preferences in a man is a one way ticket to transforming your ego into a proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall, dark, handsome, rich men, packing dogs with garden hose length and telephone pole girth. Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall short of their expectations you better be lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious bubble butt. If your rump isn't up to par, you could always get silicon butt cheek implants. But forewarning: Your black-and-blue rear will be so sore that you won't be able to sit down for a month.
As those of you know who have been reading my newsletters and have read my dating tips for men book: Attraction is not what a woman says she wants. If attraction was what women say they prefer, then I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke guys experiencing massive success with women. But I do.
Attraction, contrary to this, is about you creating the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies don't fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they do manage to generate the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of them. And this, my friend, is why they are massively successful with women. The art of creating this emotion in women is what I call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of different techniques for PRIZING women, some of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops, Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.
One of the best things you can do to set the groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them strive to fill the quota of your ideal female. So, when you're out with a woman, don't behave like a spineless little worm, asking her questions such as: “How am I doing with you?” Instead, when she behaves in ways that go against your standards and expectations of women, let her know that she is losing points with you - and losing points quickly!
Myth #2: If A Woman Is Of Higher Value Than You She Is Not Allowed To Be Attracted To You
This one actually rings some truth. Let me explain. If you see a woman and immediately, in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you are figuratively butt ramming yourself, because you are setting the frame that she is the Prize, not you. As those of you who have read my book know, women do not feel attraction for men who are not the PRIZE. Viewing a woman you have just met as a Goddess amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and abstain from bowing down to her.
What is the lesson to be learned? Objective value doesn't exist, only perceived value does. Although women are usually not attracted to men of lesser value than themselves, you can do a lot to increase your value. Whenever interacting with a woman, a Meta-Frame - or underlying meaning - is established, determining your value in relation to hers. When you allow a woman's perceived value to intimidate you, or make you feel of lesser value than her, you are unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to stop fretting about some aspect of her being of higher value than some aspect of you, plundering you of your self-esteem. When interacting with a woman, if you ever feel ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her sophistication or like a retarded little spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever, change your focus of attention. See the bigger picture. Realize that when first meeting a woman you paint a picture in your mind of who you think she is, based on a few aspects you observe about her. This picture usually ends up being way off base. Learn to take control of your perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her beauty, imagine what she looks like in the morning without her makeup; if her sophistication renders you tongue-tied, consider that she might be putting on an act to impress you; if you start worrying about how much older you are than her, imagine how much worse she's going to look when she's your age...and so on.
Myth # 3: If You Want To Attract Women You Have To Act Like You Enjoy And Are Interested In The Things That They Enjoy
This pathetic little myth is really a product of the collective dating tips for men self-help books for sale at a bookstore near you, touting men to develop the personality of an obedient lapdog.
This myth couldn't be further from the truth. Women are attracted to men, not little puppy dogs.
Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are dating a girl who has a thing for musical kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera. You, however, despise this kind of music and would prefer the sound of nails on a chalkboard to this crap. What should you do: Pretend Britney's great or tell her what you really think?
Although counterintuitive, pretending to like something you don't genuinely like is unattractive to women. Likewise, having a willingness to express what you hate can redound in women finding you very attractive.
Exceptions, of course, do exist. For example, specific activities have been deemed by our culture as having a high social value. You might, for example, prefer reading comic books over participating in these activities. There could be consequences, however, to not participating in them. In one of my upcoming products, I touch on these activities. I will probably publish a newsletter in the near future addressing these activities.
Furthermore, I am not suggesting that you jettison all of a woman's interests and tastes that you do not share. Doing this will turn you into a creepy control freak and you will probably end up becoming a very unhappy, boring person. Only being around people with the same interests and tastes as you, will stifle your growth as a human being - diversity is good. I personally love to be around people who introduce me to things I don't know a lot about. This is how I develop new interests and grow as a human being.
My gripe is with men faking an interest in something as a means to get someone to like them. Doing this is really handing your balls over on a platter to the other person. Don't do this. Don't give away your power. It is one of the most unattractive qualities you can possess.
Myth # 4: Women Don't Like Sex And Will Only Sleep With You After You Go Through Great Lengths Courting Them
This one really makes my skin crawl. My life experience keeps reaffirming that beyond the shadow of a doubt this myth doesn't even contain a smattering of truth. Women love sex and can be as aggressive as men when it come to obtaining it.
If you doubt this, make some female friends who are not interested in you. That way they won't be concerned with how you judge them, allowing them to shed their ladylike pretenses and talk candidly about their sexuality. Warning: This lurid peek into the female sexual psyche might frighten you - it isn't for the faint of heart. What you will find is that women are as sexual as men…if not more. Also, I wouldn't be surprised if these women told you about how much fun quickies, one-night-stands, and meaningless sex can be.
Many women hold off on sleeping with men because they lest being judged as sluts. It can be quite powerful to tease women about acting sexually forward or aggressive towards you. Acting genuinely concerned, though, about a woman's sexual promiscuity can transform a sexually adventurous woman into a frigid prude.
Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly getting women into bed have a knack for making women feel comfortable expressing their sexual habits and promiscuity (Note: This is, of course, in the context of women you've just met. You probably wouldn't want to encourage this kind of promiscuity in your wife or girlfriend).
Myth # 5: If You Aren't Currently Good With Women You Probably Aren't Going To Get Any Better
Simply not true. I don't believe this myth for a second. Over the years I have known many hopeless sad-sack losers who no one believed in, transform themselves into some of the most skilled ladies men I have ever seen. In many cases these guys ended up more skilled with women than natural ladies men. This is probably because they had a burning desire to get a foothold on this area of their life.
This self sabotaging myth is disseminated primarily by shrinks, guys who've had little success with women, and ladies men.
I know a few guys who were told by their psychiatrists that if they weren't good with women, they probably weren't going to get any better. And that they'd be better off compromising by settling for a less than desirable woman. One of these guys stopped seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic with women. He gets a gold star for firing the bastard.
Some guys down on their success with women will try to feed you all sorts of negative rhetoric, such as: “if you are not already successful with women, you are not going to get any better.” These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them like the plague.
Some ladies men will try to mystify their abilities by making you think that they are blessed with some unattainable God-given talent. Often times this is an attempt to exalt their abilities at the expense of your self-esteem. Don't take that crap. You're better than that.
All of the disseminators of this myth are thought viruses that will infect your mind, sabotaging your self-esteem and future opportunities with women. If you currently have any of these people in your life, KICK 'EM TO THE CURB.
It is an understatement to say that I believe in you; I am convinced that you can succeed with women. I have met and taught men of all walks of life who have successfully turned their lives around with women. No matter what your current level of success with women is, I know you strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise, you wouldn't be reading this. I know you are capable of achieving your goals with women and I am going to help you get there. And if you haven't already picked up a copy of my dating tips for men book, do so. It's not written for losers looking to cope with their unfortunate situation. It's written for winners: People who are ready to take the bull by the horns and start achieving and living the success they dream about. So if you haven't already picked up my book, do so now.
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
Source : Robrob8
If you are one of those vehement supporters of this myth, you should get a noose and hang yourself - you'll be better off. Trying to get a woman to like you by attempting to live up to her ideal preferences in a man is a one way ticket to transforming your ego into a proverbial punching bag. Women prefer tall, dark, handsome, rich men, packing dogs with garden hose length and telephone pole girth. Oh, furthermore, if you don't want to fall short of their expectations you better be lumbered with chiseled abs and a copious bubble butt. If your rump isn't up to par, you could always get silicon butt cheek implants. But forewarning: Your black-and-blue rear will be so sore that you won't be able to sit down for a month.
As those of you know who have been reading my newsletters and have read my dating tips for men book: Attraction is not what a woman says she wants. If attraction was what women say they prefer, then I wouldn't know short, bald, fat, and broke guys experiencing massive success with women. But I do.
Attraction, contrary to this, is about you creating the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of you. Although my short, bald, fat and broke Casanova buddies don't fill the quota of the “ideal man,” they do manage to generate the emotion inside women of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of them. And this, my friend, is why they are massively successful with women. The art of creating this emotion in women is what I call PRIZING. My book is chockfull of different techniques for PRIZING women, some of which are Open Loops, Tension Loops, Challenging & Qualifying, and Meta-Frames.
One of the best things you can do to set the groundwork for PRIZING women is to make them strive to fill the quota of your ideal female. So, when you're out with a woman, don't behave like a spineless little worm, asking her questions such as: “How am I doing with you?” Instead, when she behaves in ways that go against your standards and expectations of women, let her know that she is losing points with you - and losing points quickly!
Myth #2: If A Woman Is Of Higher Value Than You She Is Not Allowed To Be Attracted To You
This one actually rings some truth. Let me explain. If you see a woman and immediately, in your mind, consecrate her as a Goddess amongst Goddesses you must bow down to, you are figuratively butt ramming yourself, because you are setting the frame that she is the Prize, not you. As those of you who have read my book know, women do not feel attraction for men who are not the PRIZE. Viewing a woman you have just met as a Goddess amongst Goddesses is fine, as long as you perceive yourself as a God amongst Gods and abstain from bowing down to her.
What is the lesson to be learned? Objective value doesn't exist, only perceived value does. Although women are usually not attracted to men of lesser value than themselves, you can do a lot to increase your value. Whenever interacting with a woman, a Meta-Frame - or underlying meaning - is established, determining your value in relation to hers. When you allow a woman's perceived value to intimidate you, or make you feel of lesser value than her, you are unknowingly establishing the Meta-Frame that she is the PRIZE, not you. So the key is to stop fretting about some aspect of her being of higher value than some aspect of you, plundering you of your self-esteem. When interacting with a woman, if you ever feel ugly to her beauty or pedestrian to her sophistication or like a retarded little spaz to her sense of cool...or whatever, change your focus of attention. See the bigger picture. Realize that when first meeting a woman you paint a picture in your mind of who you think she is, based on a few aspects you observe about her. This picture usually ends up being way off base. Learn to take control of your perceptions: If you feel intimidated by her beauty, imagine what she looks like in the morning without her makeup; if her sophistication renders you tongue-tied, consider that she might be putting on an act to impress you; if you start worrying about how much older you are than her, imagine how much worse she's going to look when she's your age...and so on.
Myth # 3: If You Want To Attract Women You Have To Act Like You Enjoy And Are Interested In The Things That They Enjoy
This pathetic little myth is really a product of the collective dating tips for men self-help books for sale at a bookstore near you, touting men to develop the personality of an obedient lapdog.
This myth couldn't be further from the truth. Women are attracted to men, not little puppy dogs.
Hypothetically speaking, let's say you are dating a girl who has a thing for musical kitsch: think Britney Spears or Christina Aguilera. You, however, despise this kind of music and would prefer the sound of nails on a chalkboard to this crap. What should you do: Pretend Britney's great or tell her what you really think?
Although counterintuitive, pretending to like something you don't genuinely like is unattractive to women. Likewise, having a willingness to express what you hate can redound in women finding you very attractive.
Exceptions, of course, do exist. For example, specific activities have been deemed by our culture as having a high social value. You might, for example, prefer reading comic books over participating in these activities. There could be consequences, however, to not participating in them. In one of my upcoming products, I touch on these activities. I will probably publish a newsletter in the near future addressing these activities.
Furthermore, I am not suggesting that you jettison all of a woman's interests and tastes that you do not share. Doing this will turn you into a creepy control freak and you will probably end up becoming a very unhappy, boring person. Only being around people with the same interests and tastes as you, will stifle your growth as a human being - diversity is good. I personally love to be around people who introduce me to things I don't know a lot about. This is how I develop new interests and grow as a human being.
My gripe is with men faking an interest in something as a means to get someone to like them. Doing this is really handing your balls over on a platter to the other person. Don't do this. Don't give away your power. It is one of the most unattractive qualities you can possess.
Myth # 4: Women Don't Like Sex And Will Only Sleep With You After You Go Through Great Lengths Courting Them
This one really makes my skin crawl. My life experience keeps reaffirming that beyond the shadow of a doubt this myth doesn't even contain a smattering of truth. Women love sex and can be as aggressive as men when it come to obtaining it.
If you doubt this, make some female friends who are not interested in you. That way they won't be concerned with how you judge them, allowing them to shed their ladylike pretenses and talk candidly about their sexuality. Warning: This lurid peek into the female sexual psyche might frighten you - it isn't for the faint of heart. What you will find is that women are as sexual as men…if not more. Also, I wouldn't be surprised if these women told you about how much fun quickies, one-night-stands, and meaningless sex can be.
Many women hold off on sleeping with men because they lest being judged as sluts. It can be quite powerful to tease women about acting sexually forward or aggressive towards you. Acting genuinely concerned, though, about a woman's sexual promiscuity can transform a sexually adventurous woman into a frigid prude.
Most men I know who are unbelievable at quickly getting women into bed have a knack for making women feel comfortable expressing their sexual habits and promiscuity (Note: This is, of course, in the context of women you've just met. You probably wouldn't want to encourage this kind of promiscuity in your wife or girlfriend).
Myth # 5: If You Aren't Currently Good With Women You Probably Aren't Going To Get Any Better
Simply not true. I don't believe this myth for a second. Over the years I have known many hopeless sad-sack losers who no one believed in, transform themselves into some of the most skilled ladies men I have ever seen. In many cases these guys ended up more skilled with women than natural ladies men. This is probably because they had a burning desire to get a foothold on this area of their life.
This self sabotaging myth is disseminated primarily by shrinks, guys who've had little success with women, and ladies men.
I know a few guys who were told by their psychiatrists that if they weren't good with women, they probably weren't going to get any better. And that they'd be better off compromising by settling for a less than desirable woman. One of these guys stopped seeing his therapist and is now doing fantastic with women. He gets a gold star for firing the bastard.
Some guys down on their success with women will try to feed you all sorts of negative rhetoric, such as: “if you are not already successful with women, you are not going to get any better.” These guys will infect your mind. Avoid them like the plague.
Some ladies men will try to mystify their abilities by making you think that they are blessed with some unattainable God-given talent. Often times this is an attempt to exalt their abilities at the expense of your self-esteem. Don't take that crap. You're better than that.
All of the disseminators of this myth are thought viruses that will infect your mind, sabotaging your self-esteem and future opportunities with women. If you currently have any of these people in your life, KICK 'EM TO THE CURB.
It is an understatement to say that I believe in you; I am convinced that you can succeed with women. I have met and taught men of all walks of life who have successfully turned their lives around with women. No matter what your current level of success with women is, I know you strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise, you wouldn't be reading this. I know you are capable of achieving your goals with women and I am going to help you get there. And if you haven't already picked up a copy of my dating tips for men book, do so. It's not written for losers looking to cope with their unfortunate situation. It's written for winners: People who are ready to take the bull by the horns and start achieving and living the success they dream about. So if you haven't already picked up my book, do so now.
'Till next time,
Swinggcat
Source : Robrob8
Tuesday, January 13, 2009 | 0 Comments
Dating Tips for Men: Why Her Cycle Matters
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Many of you reading this right now probably need very little nudging from me to recognize many of the more obvious benefits of having a lot of girls on your radar. Despite this, it can still be very helpful to look carefully at the reasons why. Here are some dating tips for men out there who are desperately seeking 'the one'.
If you are going after lots of girls, one or two rejections is no big deal. If I am actively pursuing 10 girls at the same time and two of them flake I have a wonderful place to refocus my attention: 8 other lovely prospects. In fact, if you view your failures as learning experiences than you can take whatever you may have learned from the two flakes and instantly apply those lessons to subsequent interactions. In essence, failure can become exciting and fun! (Although clearly it should never be your goal)
There's an old joke that always stuck with me: How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice! Practice makes perfect. You don't come out of the womb with great seduction skills. It is comprised of many learnable skill sets and therefore takes a certain amount of dedication. The more women you are pursuing, the more opportunities you have to make connections between situations and occasionally have a revelation or two. Back when I was a wee babe I played the piano and made sure I had an hour daily to drill the scales. Now I set aside an hour or two a day to text and make phone calls to my prospects. And in the evenings I'm out with many of them 'practicing' in person. The point is, the more women you are actively pursuing, the more practice you are getting and the faster you will develop.
Building on practice is this key idea: Having multiple girls in your sights encourages you to experiment and take risks with them. I cannot overemphasize how essential this idea is. Knowing that we have 'backups' in place can fuel us to take risks that we would normally hesitate on. We can use this newfound freedom to try out new techniques and dating tips for men. We can use it to actually go with our impulses instead of blocking them.
All of the most important discoveries and breakthroughs I've made have been a direct result of this concept. You can read about pickup and think about pickup as much as you want but if you're not actually out there taking chances with it you are not going to improve at all. And if all you're thinking about is 'your main squeeze' it's going to be impossible to apply this vital perspective.
And perhaps the most important reason for having multiple prospects is this: your behavior and your energy will change for the better without even thinking about it. If you really think about it, we are strategically placing ourselves in the same mindset that beautiful women are in. These kinds of ladies have enough guys after them that they can't even stay organized and flake by default much of the time. This is one of the reasons I purposely schedule many of my 'dates' with different women for the same evening. (A technique I discuss more in 'No Flakes') Now the situation is flipped and I am having to cancel with them. Your aura itself is different; it is free (or freer) of any hint of desperation or neediness. The more prospects you have on your plate, the less anxiety you will experience over any one of them. And as women are typically more intuitive than men, they will most certainly pick up on this.
In other words the more women I am gaming, the better my success rate is with them. So to the man who says, "No, I just want to find the one girl for me!" I say in response: You'll have a much better chance of finding her if you're exploring multiple options and dating tips for men, and she will probably be much more receptive to you because of the positive changes in your behavior as a result of having those options.
Have fun,
Julian Foxx
About the Author
Julian Foxx is considered by many to be the fastest Rising Star in the dating community. His jaw dropping effectiveness with women is matched only by his ability to innovate powerful new techniques, giving their user a ridiculously unfair advantage. To read Julian's thoughts on the Mystery Method and the Mystery VH1 show check out http://www.julianfoxx.com
Source : uPublish.info
If you are going after lots of girls, one or two rejections is no big deal. If I am actively pursuing 10 girls at the same time and two of them flake I have a wonderful place to refocus my attention: 8 other lovely prospects. In fact, if you view your failures as learning experiences than you can take whatever you may have learned from the two flakes and instantly apply those lessons to subsequent interactions. In essence, failure can become exciting and fun! (Although clearly it should never be your goal)
There's an old joke that always stuck with me: How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice! Practice makes perfect. You don't come out of the womb with great seduction skills. It is comprised of many learnable skill sets and therefore takes a certain amount of dedication. The more women you are pursuing, the more opportunities you have to make connections between situations and occasionally have a revelation or two. Back when I was a wee babe I played the piano and made sure I had an hour daily to drill the scales. Now I set aside an hour or two a day to text and make phone calls to my prospects. And in the evenings I'm out with many of them 'practicing' in person. The point is, the more women you are actively pursuing, the more practice you are getting and the faster you will develop.
Building on practice is this key idea: Having multiple girls in your sights encourages you to experiment and take risks with them. I cannot overemphasize how essential this idea is. Knowing that we have 'backups' in place can fuel us to take risks that we would normally hesitate on. We can use this newfound freedom to try out new techniques and dating tips for men. We can use it to actually go with our impulses instead of blocking them.
All of the most important discoveries and breakthroughs I've made have been a direct result of this concept. You can read about pickup and think about pickup as much as you want but if you're not actually out there taking chances with it you are not going to improve at all. And if all you're thinking about is 'your main squeeze' it's going to be impossible to apply this vital perspective.
And perhaps the most important reason for having multiple prospects is this: your behavior and your energy will change for the better without even thinking about it. If you really think about it, we are strategically placing ourselves in the same mindset that beautiful women are in. These kinds of ladies have enough guys after them that they can't even stay organized and flake by default much of the time. This is one of the reasons I purposely schedule many of my 'dates' with different women for the same evening. (A technique I discuss more in 'No Flakes') Now the situation is flipped and I am having to cancel with them. Your aura itself is different; it is free (or freer) of any hint of desperation or neediness. The more prospects you have on your plate, the less anxiety you will experience over any one of them. And as women are typically more intuitive than men, they will most certainly pick up on this.
In other words the more women I am gaming, the better my success rate is with them. So to the man who says, "No, I just want to find the one girl for me!" I say in response: You'll have a much better chance of finding her if you're exploring multiple options and dating tips for men, and she will probably be much more receptive to you because of the positive changes in your behavior as a result of having those options.
Have fun,
Julian Foxx
About the Author
Julian Foxx is considered by many to be the fastest Rising Star in the dating community. His jaw dropping effectiveness with women is matched only by his ability to innovate powerful new techniques, giving their user a ridiculously unfair advantage. To read Julian's thoughts on the Mystery Method and the Mystery VH1 show check out http://www.julianfoxx.com
Source : uPublish.info
Tuesday, January 13, 2009 | 0 Comments
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